the title of the article is "MARRIAGE? NO WAY!" on the front page of NST..
quite interesting as it discuss abt the reasons why there are increasing single non-married women... some of the reasonings fr their survey are;
- lack of sexual desire - penat keje... priority more on career... hmmm... not sure on this
- career priorities - maybe la... coz we can see more and more lady bosses right now
- in search for rich husband - perhaps somebody successful who is at par... at least...
after reading the article, i've done some checks on myself... can't stand it when ppl commented that i'm being choosy, sbb tu i'm still alone... tak tahu la... i mean when u talk abt marriage, it is sumthin special in ur life, biggest decision that u hv to make as it will change not only ur life but ur family's too.... tak nak la main tangkap muat jer kan... getting married just for the sake of getting married like other ppl....
at my age, most of the peers are either married, attached, very career minded or just plain not interested to settle down (straight or gay..)... frens kept saying that u hv to try and look for somebody at least ur level or higher... coz if u go for somebody with lower education/position... there maybe ego problem arising later... i've tried going out with these successful single guys but i dont think marriage is their no 1 priority at the moment... they are on the verge of success and i guess they dont really hv much to loose pun... kononnya man ni mcm wine la... the older they get the better they can offer and at that time if they marry a 20 yrs younger girl.... org tak kecoh pun... imagine if its the other way round.... sure kecoh habis2...
ntahla... sometimes i do get confuse... org macam ni tak sesuai la... mcm tu tak sesuai la... habis tu yg mcm mana yg sesuai... when u actually found that almost perfect guy its too late.... yg tinggal mostly younger guys la... and i dont know why, yg ramai approach i are these young guys.. kalau setakat 1, 2thn tu takpe lagi... kalau sampai 4,5 yrs tu susah la jugak... to marry somebody younger pun ada masalah gak... family, level of thinking, financials... mmg la org kata masa bercinta tu semua pun possible la... tp in reality, the truth hurts...
i can understand why all this single women choose to concentrate on career instead... concentrate on sumthin definite which will take their mind away... penantian itu satu penyeksaan... i bet they kept on wondering if this next guy is the one... and last2 dah lost hope and jez accept the situation..
takut jugak if i end up that way... but looking at my fren's sis (angah) really give me hope to alwiz stays positive in life... she just got married 2 yrs back at 40++ (i think...), lepas kawin berhenti (she's a partner at Accenture) follow her husband yg posting oversea... ada baby boy and now expecting another one... how great is that... at the same time it helps u to appreciate what u have... when things come in so easily, u tend to forget and not appreciate...
sometimes u just dont know what live could be in the future... alwiz hv to stay positive... kalau dulu, i thot i could only be happy when i'm with somebody... i know thats wrong... now learning to feel content with myself.... u should be happy first wif urself... can't rely on others to be happy... apapun there's a reason behind all that's happening... ada hikmah dalam setiap kejadian ... whether its good or bad coz Allah knows what's best utk hamba2Nya... we may not realise it now but when we look back we will be grateful that it actually happen... Alhamdulillah..
i've been thru few heartbreaks.. but, i've never regretted my past as each time i've learn different things and i am who i am today bcoz of that... each relationship is special in their own way and i matured from them... now i appreciate life better and i look at things differently.. more openly... ppl say "in every cloud there's a silver lining"... "there's rainbow at the end of every storm".... i've yet to find my rainbow and silver lining... and before that time comes i'll learn to appreciate my surrounding better... ppl who currently loves me and all the blessing that has been bestowed upon me...
till then... good luck EyMie, in finding ur knight in shining armour!! All the best!!
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